If you’re new to Kik sexting, things can feel a bit intimidating — especially if you’re sexting someone who already knows what they’re doing. Chances are, you’ve added a girl from her username you might’ve found on a forum or website for other Kik sexters, likeĀ Dirty Usernames or KikSexting. Now, she expects you to know what you’re doing, but if you haven’t had much experience with Kik sexting, you’re pretty much clueless on how to help her get off.

If you want to be a good sexter, you also have to think of the other person. But when you don’t know how to sext in a way that will get them off, that can be hard to do.

Here are seven Kik sexting tips to help you become a great sexter, and light her fire.

1. Be attentive

Make sure you’re asking what she likes or doesn’t like, what she wants you to say, and what she wants to see from you if you’re swapping nude pictures. If you’re only focusing on yourself and what you want form her for you to cum, you’re selfish! And selfishness is never a good quality when it comes to sexting, and just sex in general.

2. You can tease her

This is something she most likely won’t expect from you, considering guys are never the ones who like to tease. But if you do it just enough, she’ll want more and become sexually frustrated — in a good way. This is because it leaves room for imagination, which is essential to having a good sext conversation.

3. Expand your dirty talk

You are not reciting a rehearsed script of only some lines during sexting. Constantly saying “I wanna fuck you,” or “you look so hot,” is cool and all, but if you want to impress her, and keep a good conversation going, switch it up and be creative with your words. After all, words are a big part of sexting and should not be underestimated.
Read a couple of erotica, and you’ll see what I mean.

4. It’s in the details

If you’re talking about what you want her to do to you, or what you’d want to do to her, describe it in detail and use all the dirty words you can. Using sensory words and adjectives helps add to the conversation and makes your sexting that much better.

5. Don’t be afraid to role play

One of the best things about sexting is that you can fantasize whatever you want and make it come to life. If there’s a kink you’re into or have a certain fantasy in mind you’ve wanted to play out, see if she’s up for it.

6. Ask questions

This goes hand-in-hand with being attentive. Ask the girl you’re talking to if you’re doing things right to get reassurance and ask her if she’s liking where the conversation is going.

Also, you should be able to ask her what she loves about sex and some of her favorite things to do during sex.

7. Think of it as foreplay

When you change your mindset from thinking of sexting as just another form of porn fo you to jerk off to, you’ll notice your sexting become much better already. This is because when you think of sexting as something leading up to a bigger moment, you put in more effort. When you put in more effort, things get better.